We will hear and say ‘Happy New Year’ so often currently of year – but rarely do we think about what it really means to us, as well as the individuals to whom we say it.
We are all unique individuals with our personal unique needs and desires; and the majority of us are united within our quest for the same thing – to feel New Year 2020. Many of us are striving for this particular state of ‘happiness’; nevertheless many people are looking within the wrong spot for it – and settling to get a temporary mood-enhancer by means of alcohol, drugs, a new relationship, or new possessions.
Magazines are actually packed with ‘New Year New You’ advice from so-called experts – almost all of which is just plain sound judgment! No one is the expert for you! Only you know – or are attempting to pin-down – what brings you personal happiness. One person’s happiness is another person’s burden.
In the event you now take into consideration what actually brings people happiness it might range from finding shelter and food; to getting a make-over/fake-tan/fake-nails etc., buying new ‘toys/gadgets’, right to showing love, care and compassion to others. As broad a spectrum as is seen in general society.
Happiness for you will depend upon your very own level of personal and spiritual awareness, as well as your capacity to create happiness as being a state of mind that you can come back to anytime – despite life’s relentless disappointments and challenges.
It is far from enough to merely ‘think’ or ‘imagine’ yourself for being happy – you can’t fool yourself that easily!
What many of us don’t realise is the fact that we have two mind-sets about everything in our life, and these two minds can be at odds with the other person. This conflict can range from the degrees of happiness we have been ‘allowed’ to experience.
Our conscious/rational/observing mind can desire and seek greater happiness; however, if our sub-conscious mind doesn’t believe that we deserve it, or that we would take advantage of it – this just isn’t going to come our way. Our outer lives are just ever a reflection in our inner and deeper sub-conscious belief system. Self-help books and talking therapies do not access or change these deeper ‘Script’ beliefs.
Being around happy, optimistic, warm and friendly people positively affects us too – as does the exact opposite. This is called ‘Emotional Contagion’ – which is worth reflecting upon what ‘mood’ or ‘energy’ we ourselves give away that consequently affects those around us.
We have neurons inside our brains called Mirror Neurons which can create in us the emotion we are witnessing outside us. For example whenever we see someone stub their toe or trap their finger, our company is instinctively developed to feel something similar. This connection goes past mere ’empathy’, or of recalling personal memories of similar things having happened to us in the past. We have been significantly affected by being around Merry Christmas Wishes, whose emotions then we ‘mirror’ in ourselves.
Don’t however be fooled by a ‘happy mask’ that someone may be wearing; which will be a false-self they present to the world being an make an effort to hide their real feelings and requires. This may well have been set up in childhood if it was encouraged and expected they ‘put-on-a-happy face’ for your family’s sake; as well as stuff down their real feelings like anger, resentment, disappointment, fear, sadness and despair – which had been real, but ‘unacceptable’ through the family/care-giver.
So many people are so accustomed to wearing a mask they cannot imagine a life without one, or how to take it away! Their eyes will often offer the game away concerning their underlying feelings, as will an unguarded moment and comment, if someone else is sensitive enough to notice these ‘slips’.
Everyone has a ‘base-line’ degree of happiness at virtually any stage within our lives – which can be formed from the past experiences and also the meaning we gave to them; not to mention the results these have experienced upon our sub-conscious mind as well as the ‘program’ we have been running.
This base-line represents only 40% of the full level of happiness we are designed for experiencing on the present time. Another 10% can come from the external ‘lucky’ events like the lottery win; or even a big new purchase; or kkywim cosmetic plastic surgery etc. These ‘highs’ are unfortunately only temporary and that we soon go back to our base level yet again.
The particular fantastic news though is the fact that remaining 40% of happiness accessible to you – comes from YOU! This can be scientifically validated and forms a central aspect of Positive Psychology.
There are 12 means of facilitating more happiness by the own actions and thoughts, and through the releasing your personal blockages. A few of these ways include learning how to establish a more optimistic and focused approach to life; to keep up your healthy mind and spirit, and allowing gratitude and forgiveness into your life. These sound simple however are profound and life-changing. Boosting your overall, and sustained, happiness positively effects every cell in your body and consequently your genetic expression (Epi-genetics); and therefore your lifespan.
Deeper and sustained Happiness equates to your calmness in the mind… observing what exactly is, rather than forcing change… reflecting, surrendering and allowing; as opposed to worrying, over-thinking and mind-chatter. To see the Happy New Year 2020 Wishes in every tiny moment instead of only focusing in front of the present time; or dwelling in the unchangeable past. The only time you actually have is that this moment as well as the next breath. Take full advantage of these whilst you still have them.